Anti Fragile

I carry the quiet curse of being alone and resilient. I’ve fallen so many times that the falls no longer frighten me — they simply tire me. There are moments when the weight of it all makes life feel hopeless, but lately I’ve begun to read those low points differently: not as punishments but as furnaces. Like iron forged in fire, I am shaped by the heat. Some people seem to glide through life untouched; others learn the hard lessons. As a Scorpio sun and moon, transformation is stitched into my story !! recurrent endings that become unexpected beginnings. The downs sharpen me, and the remakings remind me I can return, altered but intact. Sometimes I wonder: if nothing ever breaks, am I really living? The question is less a complaint and more a compass. I don’t crave pain, but I have come to accept that growth often arrives disguised as hardship. I am learning to meet my own endurance with tenderness, to let the forging do its work without losing myself in the flames.

Musings

Life is a series of meetings. Every person we encounter – whether a fleeting stranger, a passing colleague, or a lifelong companion – enters our story for a reason. Some become permanent chapters, while others appear for a page or two before disappearing. Some transform before our eyes, while others remain much the same. Why does this happen?

1. People as Mirrors

Many believe that we meet people to learn about ourselves. A friend’s encouragement may show us our hidden strengths, while a difficult colleague may push us to confront patience, resilience, or boundaries. Once the lesson is absorbed, the connection may naturally fade  not because it lacked meaning, but because its purpose was served.

2. The Flow of Timing

Timing plays an invisible role. Some relationships thrive because both people grow at the same pace, walking side by side. Others drift apart when paths diverge. It’s rarely about fault; often it’s about life’s rhythms being out of sync.

3. Why Some Stay

Certain people become anchors. They stay because the bond evolves with time, adapting to each person’s changes. Shared values, deep trust, and mutual respect act as glue. These are the friendships and relationships that withstand seasons of change.

4. Why Some Disappear

Not all departures are dramatic. Sometimes people disappear quietly  careers shift, priorities realign, or simply the connection no longer fits who we are becoming. Letting go doesn’t erase the moments shared; it just acknowledges that not everyone is meant to stay forever.

5. Why Some Change  and Some Don’t

Change is inevitable, but not universal. Some embrace it, shedding old layers and stepping into new versions of themselves. Others resist, preferring the comfort of the familiar. The way someone chooses to grow (or not) often determines whether we continue walking together or take separate routes.